Raising children is the most difficult job in the universe. Every parent has experienced the joy and challenges of having a family. At best, we can hope to teach our children the following: 1. They are and will be loved unconditionally 2. Can achieve anything they wish 3. Possess a moral compass 4. Respect others 5. Become upstanding citizens. ** I would add a sense of humor, but that’s just me. These days, I wonder what parents are thinking. Are they thinking? Or, just gone bonkers!
Today as a parent of 3 grown children, I am truly amazed by the plethora of resources this generation of parents have at their disposal. We learned parenting from our parents, grandparents and so on. Well….we did have Dr Spock. NO! Not Mr. Spock from Star Trek. Although Mr Spock did deliver many “wisdomettes” while boldly going where no one dared go. Somehow my generation persevered. Today, our children are great examples of what one may achieve.
That being said, I have concerns for the parents and children today. If parents allow their children to behave badly in public, how must they act at home? Has parenting changed? Are there no rules? Where do you stand on this matter?
Photo courtesy of John Van Beekum for The New York Times
Of late, I seem to be scratching my head more and more, when I see parents and children in public spaces. Not to mention on TV programming. Just last week, while in a well-known department store, I heard children crying. More than one. I always say to myself, “please take the child home”. It’s obvious those children do not want to be there. I turned. Immediately, I am in the path of a now screaming child and the mother screaming even louder. “You can keep on crying and yelling at me all you want. Nobody’s gonna care about you and I ‘m not gonna give you what you want”. And on it went. I had stopped cold. Frozen in place by the display of parenting in front of me. “Oh, my God!” I said aloud. Shocked by this woman and child. The mother just kept
talking screaming louder, to be heard over the child. Was this a contest? I am now breathing quite rapidly and picture smoke rolling out of my ears as surely my hair must be on fire. I made my way down the next aisle. Encountered the second crying child. Holy Moly! This time it was a teen. Her mouth running wild, to what appeared to be her Grandma. A tirade worthy of any sailor. My eyes darted around. Most people just went on about their business. Loud whispers clouding the space.
Am I alone in finding this behavior in public spaces disturbing? Am I over reacting? What happened to rules of decorum? I find this very disconcerting. When did it become “normal” to behave badly in public? Is reality television a contributor? Sugary Cereal?
Now comes the latest in the ever so long list of bad behavior for parent and child. I am so SHOCKED by this I can barely contain myself long enough to put my thoughts into words.
Potty Training During restaurant Lunch. Why? via the Today Show-MSNBC
One mom, apparently not wanting to fret about whether her two young girls could make it to a restaurant’s bathroom in time, should the need arise, took matters into her own hands – or at least her own porta-a-potty.
At first glance, other diners thought the two naked toddlers eating their chicken nuggets were simply sitting on booster seats. However, upon closer inspection, they realized the tots were dining atop their own little potty chairs, ready to release at a moment’s notice.
One horrified patron (a mom who had recently finished pottytraining her own young son) snapped a picture of one of the girls, calmly sitting on her potty, clothes around her ankles, munching on her lunch.
“The more you thought about it, the more unappetizing everything looked around me,” Kimberly Decker told KSL Utah. “I was like this is not ok, we’re eating, there was a business meeting with about five or six businessmen going on right next to me. The place was packed.”
A spokesperson for the deli said they received several complaints from other customers about the incident and mentioned that if staff had realized what was happening, they would have asked the mom to take the potty training to the restroom. (from MSNBC)
How could it be, that the staff did not notice 2 NAKED children, underwear around their ankles sitting at the table. Having your children undress in a public space– a restaurant –is so disturbing. Have some parents said ” The rules of the world do not apply to me”? This is unbelievable.
Did the parent wish to push the envelope? Need 15 minutes of fame? Perhaps some talk show or early morning news program will give her money to show up and tell her story. Of that I am pretty sure. This is exploitation children, right?” Anyone over the age of 7 understands that one uses the restrooms, not the dining table. I cannot fathom any way to rationalize this behavior. Does this parent let her children urinate at the family table during dinner?
What would your reaction be had you been present?
If you can give any sane explanation, please share. How far will people push the envelope for exploitation of their children? I will get over my shock. But my concern remains. Has the world of parenting changed so much or……………Have some parents just gone bonkers?